What Got You Here Won’t Get You To The Next Level
For years I ran a chiropractic practice I never built. I bought it turnkey. The systems were already in place, the front desk was already staffed, and all I had to do was step in, look pretty and run it. On paper it worked. Underneath it ran a quiet hum: is this all I’m meant […]
Why Apologies Fail
I spent a long stretch of my own life apologizing badly. Not insincerely – badly. I meant every word of it and I still wanted the conversation to end, and those two things were doing battle in the same sentence. It took me years to notice the second one was winning. So when a parent […]
Why Your Kids Don’t Want to Spend Time With You: Five Core Reasons
This subject has hit close to home for me lately. Not in my own house. In the sessions I work in, sitting with parents who are disconnected with their children. Most of the low contact and estranged parents I sit with arrive with the same sentence, and it usually comes out quietly, near the end: […]
She Chased Him Naked Onto The Balcony
She had done the work. Over a decade of healing. A relationship coach. Someone who *knew* the frameworks, the language, the tools. And yet there she was — naked, chasing a man onto the front balcony, begging him not to leave. That was Jasmine’s rock bottom. Not a breakdown from ignorance. A breakdown from […]
The Moment The Hiding Stops Working
After the headlines — I went quiet. Not the peaceful kind of quiet. The kind where you stop saying anything real because you’ve seen what happens when people think they know the story of who you are. I watched my self-expression collapse in real time. Things I would have said easily — I stopped saying. […]
Personal Development As Self-Hatred
Yesterday I shared about the worst thing I’ve ever done. Today I want to talk about what was underneath it. Because the slap wasn’t the problem. The slap was the symptom. I had done the work. More than most. Seminars. Weekend intensives. Certifications. Cognitive re-structuring of my past. I could explain the Hypothalamic-Pituitary-Axis at a […]
THE WORST THING I’VE EVER DONE
I’m going to tell you something I don’t share often. Not because I’ve forgotten it. Because I spent years trying to. Years before I started teaching any of this — before the methodology, before the programs, before the talks — I was in a relationship that I couldn’t see clearly. I told myself I loved […]
Therapy Reinforced but Didn’t Release
It was an “ugly cry”… During COVID, I couldn’t be in the hospital for Diana’s ultrasound. I was on FaceTime when she held up the phone to her belly. I heard my son’s heartbeat for the first time. I burst into tears. Not the quiet kind. The kind where you can’t breathe. The kind where […]
Therapy Reinforced but Didn’t Release
I spent years in therapy understanding my childhood. My therapist was brilliant. She helped me see the patterns, trace them back, understand where they came from. But understanding and being free from the patterns are two different things. I was still blowing up relationships. I was triggered at the smallest things. I was unconsciously using […]
My Wife Left Me. Here’s Why I Thank Her Now
I asked him what was different now– (After the somatic work, after facing what he’d been avoiding his whole life.) “I believe in myself now. I feel stronger inside. I love myself.” He’d never been able to say that before. But here’s what got me: His daughter is 11. Before the work, if you asked […]