AM I THE “TOXIC” ONE?
Inevitably on the path towards healing our relationship dynamics, there comes a time when we are called to wake up, put down the magnifying glass, and pick up a mirror instead. Sadly, many who are on the road to recovery haven’t even gotten there yet. They’re the ones who obsessively are hyper focussed on their […]
Working Backwards With the End in Mind
I know this message might sound a little morbid, but this is the kind of stuff I really enjoy thinking of. Most of us are walking on this planet quite unconsciously. Waking up, stuck in our heads over what isn’t working, how we aren’t getting what we want, how shitty our jobs or relationships are, […]
Individuation: The Secret Intention Behind Healing
It was a painful realization for me. I couldn’t stand being in between my parents and my first wife. I hated feeling like I was stuck in the middle. My wife at the time felt like I didn’t have her back. My parents felt frustrated about certain traits about her, and didn’t hesitate to let […]
Bossbabe Conundrum
Just had an interesting back and forth with a woman who was keen on working with me. Here’s her story: My story dates back to my early childhood years where I grew up in a dysfunctional emotionally and physically abusive household. Typical Mediterranean strict father with lots of emotional issues. My abandonment issues stem from […]
Unravelling the Mystery of Love and Connection: The Magic ingredient to heal
The pandemic has shaken our world to its core, leaving countless people grappling with isolation and detachment. But here’s a little secret: for those with unresolved attachment trauma, the struggle with connection has always been real. It’s only just gotten worse. You know the feeling. You yearn for deep, meaningful relationships but can’t shake the […]
How not Learning Self Regulation Destroys Relationship
Just had this question: “I have these mood swings that when I am feeling down, I feel I need to shut down and stay away from humans until I can regulate. It could take me a good couple of hours to days to feel like myself again. My ex-husband complained about this and my current […]
Embodied Feminine Radiance
The moment I met her, I could feel there was something different about her. It was in her smile. That smile knocked me right off my feet. It was as though you could FEEL her soul in her smile. I didn’t understand what it was at the time– I didn’t have words for it. I […]
If You Want To Heal Trauma— Focus Here…
Think about your relationship to physical and emotional pain. Do you keep trying to avoid it— only to find yourself in it constantly? How has your relationship to pain impacted your life? Being a bit of a freak— I find myself thinking about this stuff. I’ve realized as a society— we’ve got it backwards. It […]
Understanding Your Attachment Style
Tell me if you can relate to this. I was 43 years old when I realized I had it all wrong. Growing up with the values instilled in me, I thought I had to prove my worth in the world with success. In 2010 when I climbed that mountain and reached what I would have […]
Perfectionism Is a Trauma Response
What is it that you’re not stepping into action for? Where are you dragging your feet? What is sitting there unwritten, unresolved, un-expressed within you? Chances are, you’re stopped by “perfection anxiety”— better known as PERFECTIONISM. If you’ve ever identified yourself as a “perfectionist,”— pay close attention. What was the consequence to you as a […]