Why She Resists The Concept Of Polarity
(And how her romantic life is a perfect demonstration of it — 4 minutes read) “What’s your take on Polarity?” an influencer I follow asked on a social media post. The screen shots posted are her response in the thread. He was trying to educate the masses on how Polarity teachings are more than […]
Children Ruin Relationships
(3 things I discovered on my Polarity Journey- A 4 minute read) “Jim” had the affair shortly after the birth of their second child. “Tammy” left him for her boss while she was pregnant with her 2nd child. These are the stories of two separate cases I’ve helped in the recovery of their “should I […]
Are You Avoiding The Work?
An observation I’ve made in a growing number of people consuming content about attachment, trauma bonding, codependency, and relationship healing. Even MY content. “I listen to their relationship podcast.” “I’ve read all the books on attachment.” “I binge-watch your YouTube videos.” There’s a growing trend where people think that watching videos, reading books, and listening […]
Where Men Drop The Ball
There’s no shortage of complaints about how men show up in relationships. We fear what we don’t understand. Most men don’t understand women. (And most women don’t understand men.) From a very young age, we ALSO get so many mixed messages. Be a man, don’t show emotions It’s not ok to feel angry Your anger is unwarranted (which will turn […]
He’s watching – Break free from childhood wounds
He’s watching me. He can feel my energy. He knows when I’m upset. And he can feel when there is tension between me and his mother. He’s learning. He’s observing my reactions. My language. My tone of voice. He’s watching how we speak to one another. How we react to one another. How we argue, […]
Understanding The Push-Pull Dynamic
Did you ever wonder why the push-pull dynamic keeps coming upin insecure relationship dynamics? It all makes perfect sense when you study the mechanism. Insecure (and exhausting) push-pull dynamics happen because we haven’t yet learned how to navigate the two primary attachment fears gone awry: The Fear of Abandonment— being left behind, drifting in a […]
How Do I Heal My Insecure Attachment
Unless you had unicorn parents, chances are that you follow a combination of two primary insecure attachment styles: Anxious (Ambivalent)— Think of a wave who constantly needs connection. Avoidant (Dismissive)— Think of an “island” who needs space. or a combination of the two (Disorganized AKA “Dismissive avoidant”) The problem with these tests and quizzes is […]
Why You Don’t Know What You Want
“It isn’t normal to know what we want. It is a rare and difficult psychological achievement.” ― Abraham Maslow I remember it feeling like a panic in my system. I was in a crossroads of my life, wondering what’s next, and when someone asked me what I wanted, my response was “I have no clue what […]
I realized I Was The Problem
Have you heard the Taylor Swift song “Anti-Hero”? I remember the first time hearing it and was blown away. “I’ll stare directly in the sun but never in the mirror” was one of my favorite lines of all time in a song, because it captured what I see so often when helping people stuck in […]
The Impact Of Your Inner Work On Your Children
And your parents were about to make an important decision. They were sitting on an opportunity to help them heal a part of themselves. They were on the precipice of deciding if NOW is the time to resolve some of their childhood wounding. The wounding that had them feeling like they were “not enough”. The […]