A New Lens For Forgiveness
(Name changed to respect privacy and anonymity) (4 minute read). Amy was tired of feeling like a victim. Divorced with children, running a business, she was still walking around with a great deal of resentment. She had done YEARS of therapy, plant medicines, breathwork, inner child work…. Even taking courses on learning how to communicate […]
Why She Wants to Leave You (Even if You’re Rich)
Women initiate 70% of divorces. After speaking to these women, I discovered 3 reasons why. She’s fed up. She’s tired. She’s feeling alone (even if you’ve been married for decades). I’ve even spoken to women who confessed they were wanting to have an affair. If you’re a successful man who’s a good provider— with a […]
Our Resistance To Healing
It’s time for some real talk. After countless calls with the people who have been consuming my content, reaching out for help in their current situation, I want to share with you what I wish I could say to them— but usually don’t, because let’s face it, the truth can sting. Here it is: Consider […]
5 Common Traits in 30 Alpha Boss Women Struggling in Love
Over the past few weeks, I spoke to more than 30 women who identified as successful in work, (Bossbabes, if you will) who “didn’t need a man” to take care of them. Even though they considered themselves independent, many of them tearfully shared with me some of the struggles they were facing in their relationships. […]
The link between Codependency and Chronic Illness
Your face will say it all. Do you brace? Are you wearing a “mask?” Fawning, people pleasing, and codependency are behavioral responses to stress in relationships. It’s a reflection of who we think we are and what we feel we deserve in life. And when your photo is taken, how you view yourself, and your […]
WHAT IS THIS SORCERY?
“Should I stay or go” situations always begin with complaints about the partner. “They’re a Narcissist.” “They’re emotionally immature”. In helping people find clarity on this really frustrating issue, the biggest challenge is helping people put down the magnifying glass that’s so preoccupied with their partner’s behavior– what they did or didn’t do– and pick […]
How Men Can Solve Sexual Resistance When She’s Not in The Mood
It’s the topic of so many comedy routines: “Not tonight— I have a headache.” Even though people joke about it, the impact of two lovers not sharing the same enthusiasm about sex is very real— to big blow outs in the middle of the night, to sexual shutdown or sexless marriages. On this short 20 […]
How Anxiety Creates Repulsion
(Real names used with permission). A familiar name slid into my DM’s, this time she was introducing me to her partner, Greg. Sophia and I worked together 5 years ago, but this time, late April 2024, as many of my clients and students do, she had a desire for Greg to upgrade his relationship game […]
Dysregulation – What My Triggers Were Costing Me
Think about the areas of your life that cause the most dysregulation: Toxic relationship patterns Workplace stress and unfulfillment Health crises Now get your pen out. Whenever I guide people through the exercise I’m about to share, the results are often quite eye-opening (and dysregulating). Here’s the exercise: (Your Self-stated Dysregulation Meter) A score of […]
Answering the Polarity Controversy
A commenter on a post said: “I feel like all this masculine/feminine talk is leading down a toxic path where people are misinterpreting the whole concept to suppress women further.” If you have struggled with maintaining attraction in a secure relationship dynamic, then chances are you are dealing with an issue about Polarity without even […]