Why Apologies Fail
I spent a long stretch of my own life apologizing badly. Not insincerely – badly. I meant every word of it and I still wanted the conversation to end, and those two things were doing battle in the same sentence. It took me years to notice the second one was winning. So when a parent […]
Why Your Kids Don’t Want to Spend Time With You: Five Core Reasons
This subject has hit close to home for me lately. Not in my own house. In the sessions I work in, sitting with parents who are disconnected with their children. Most of the low contact and estranged parents I sit with arrive with the same sentence, and it usually comes out quietly, near the end: […]
A New Lens For Forgiveness
(Name changed to respect privacy and anonymity) (4 minute read). Amy was tired of feeling like a victim. Divorced with children, running a business, she was still walking around with a great deal of resentment. She had done YEARS of therapy, plant medicines, breathwork, inner child work…. Even taking courses on learning how to communicate […]
How Could I Have Been So Blind?
As the most toxic relationship in my life started coming to a dramatic end, seeing what both of us had become to one another, steeped in shame, guilt, and regret, I couldn’t even stand to look in a mirror. I was depressed, anxious, and confused as to what was happening around me, grasping to hold […]