From Dissociation to Reconnection
There’s a hidden root cause behind most of our relationship challenges. And it’s not about the “other” person. It’s something more insidious. In fact you can’t even feel it most of the time. Most of us who are stuck in relationship dynamics that feel toxic, living in a “should I stay or go” situation are […]
How Fantasy Affects Your Relationships
What are your fantasies? At first glance, you might be thinking that I’m talking about sexuality and fetishes. I’m not. I’m talking about the root cause of our Trauma Bonds. Picture this: you grow up in a childhood where you experienced the wounding of: abuse, loss, abandonment rejection (bullying) emotional neglect, maturing too early, or […]
How a Child Becomes the Narcissist
These days my inbox is inundated with people telling me how their ex is a narcissist. And I get it, too. I’m married now in a secure bond that’s polarized, but when I was unpacking the sh*t show that was my last relationship I was in, I was surprised to discover that I was in […]
I’m Sorry
I’m sorry. I’ve been so busy helping people shift their insecure attachments, become Trigger-Proof, and upgrade their magnetism, master the rupture/repair cycle that my team just informed me that I haven’t sent ANY notices to let you know that the super early bird deadline for Rewire: Love, Sxx, and Money that’s happening the weekend of […]
Rewiring Your Patterns Does This
What would you do if your partner who you loved didn’t want to have s∊x with you? Option #1: Feel hurt, rejected, pine after them, beg, plead Option #2: Do option #1 then decide to leave and move on. Joe decided to do option #1— which was to do option 1 in hopes that one […]
Anyone can Become Locked in a Trauma Bond – Even Me
Anyone can become locked in a trauma bond – even me. For 43 years, I kept finding myself in the same relationship over and over again: a relationship defined by insecurity, constant cycles of conflict and making up, and a strong desire to be “completed” by each other. Seeking intensity over safety, trust, and authenticity. […]
A Man’s Two Greatest Fears In Relationships
If you’re a man, or you’re in a relationship with a man, you’re wise to learn about the two fundamental fears every man contends with in relationships. P.S. Remember, the end of a trauma bond isn’t just an ending; it’s the beginning of a journey back to your true self. You’re welcome to take that […]
Being Self-Centered vs Not Giving a F###
A participant of my recent 3 hour training on Fawning had a few questions that arose. She’s in a “should I stay or go” situation and has been consuming my content and has now begun her pathway to creating a secure relationship. Here are some more questions: What happens when you try to finally set boundaries, […]
REAL TALK ABOUT GOING FROM TRAUMA BONDED…. TO THIS
(4 minute read) Look at these two faces in this picture. They are my light. My relationship with these two precious beings is my life’s greatest accomplishment. But it wasn’t always this way. I used to be stuck in a Trauma Bond, and without even knowing it– that was all I was conditioned to know […]
Confronting Your Inner Perpetrator
In the silent corridors of our hearts, where the echoes of conflict reside, you find yourself weary. Arguments get volatile, The endless cycle of walking on eggshells, the back-and-forth bickering, the invalidation, what feels like gaslighting during every argument— It gets exhausting. You feel trapped and hopeless, wondering if you should stay or go. And […]