Avoidance (Somatic Exercise)
A woman with adult children who aren’t speaking to her who’s stuck in a trauma bonded relationship she’s unfulfilled in, but can’t seem to let go of, just cancelled her Blind Spot session with me citing “Exhaustion and Avoidance”. It’s both heartbreaking and telling when someone, seeking help to escape their stuckness, becomes stuck in […]
What do You Actually Want?
(I had to hit rock bottom to figure it out.) This pic right here — It’s how I’m ringing in 2025— With my radiant wife, Diana, Our superhero son, Dominic, And a heart full of gratitude for what once felt impossible. And I’m going to be honest with you. This wasn’t always the picture of […]
When The Honeymoon Phase Ends
There’s that blissful phase of your relationship where everything feels effortless. Every glance feels electric, every touch meaningful, and every conversation flows. It’s called the “honeymoon phase.” But if you’re like most people, you didn’t even notice when it slipped away. Suddenly, it’s replaced with: • Increased external demands: Balancing careers, family obligations, or new […]
Why the Wheels Fall Off: Breaking Free from Midlife Cycles
At 43, I thought success was supposed to make it easier. Get the career. Build the wealth. Earn the respect. And the rest would just… fall into place. At least, that’s what I was sold. But if you’re anything like I was, you’ve built a life you were told would make you happy. And yet… […]
Crushing Loneliness of Success
Imagine: You’re excelling in your professional sphere. Industry accolades. But tonight, like every night, you sit alone in your immaculate kitchen. Takeout for one. Again. The silence is deafening. Your phone buzzes. Is it them? Your heart leaps, then plummets. Just another work email. Relief and despair war in your chest. THIS is success? This […]
Is This You? Overcoming Fear and Self-Abandonment
Last week, I had a conversation with Sue. She was 61 years old, married for 37 years, and stuck in a relationship that felt more like a prison than a partnership. Her words stayed with me: “I’ve never lived by myself. I went straight from my parents’ house to my husband’s. I wouldn’t even know […]
Why Can’t You See Me?
Denise had been wearing a mask for as long as she could remember. “I never feel seen,” she told me. “And then when someone does call me out on that mask, it’s… shattering. On one hand, I think, Why can’t you see me? And on the other, it’s like, “I don’t want to be seen […]
Depression or Protection? Understand the Difference
When you’re in dorsal vagal shutdown, your thoughts turn dark. “What’s the point?” “I’ll never get it right.” “Nobody wants me anyway.” “I’ll reject myself before they can do it.” It’s a quiet war that nobody sees. You isolate not because you want to— but because it feels safer. Safer to abandon yourself first… before […]
Turning Point
December 2018. I was 43 years old and miserable, sitting alone in a rented room with my dog Lucy. My condo? On Airbnb to pay the bills. My career? On hold. My life? A mess. I had achieved success in many areas of life— but not the one that mattered most: Love. I was stuck […]
Sexless And Walking On Eggshells
The following has become a sad reality for many. See if you can relate. You’ve found yourself in a relationship that’s become a battlefield of unmet needs, silent frustrations, and emotional distance. You love each other deeply— at least, that’s what you tell yourself as you turn out the light, roll over, and feel the […]