Where Our Dysfunctional Relationship With Emotions Begins
Parents who admit to already having a dysfunctional relationship with their own emotions, have been asking me about their challenges with their children. This led me to want to bring something to your attention if you’re a parent who cares about raising healthy and resilient children. When your child comes to you with tears in […]
It’s Very Subtle: Mastering The Art Of Witnessing In Relationships
Tell me if you’ve experienced this: A situation in your relationship where the emotional tension feels suffocating. Your partner is upset, withdrawing, or breaking down— and you’re scrambling to “fix it.” You try to say the right things they taught you in masculine/feminine communication courses It doesn’t work. So you try even harder. You bend […]
Push and Pull (Here’s Why)
Michael wasn’t new to relationships, but this one was different. It had all the highs and lows of a Hollywood romance. The chemistry was explosive. The connection was unmatched. The sex was off the charts…. And the emotional pain was unbearable. One moment, they were inseparable— talking for hours, planning their future, feeling like they’d […]
Can’t Let Go? Heal from Trauma Bonds and Reclaim Your Life
If you’ve ever had a problem releasing something unhealthy, this message is for you. It’s especially for you if the pain of holding on is real— but the fear of letting go feels WORSE. Let me tell you about Donna (name changed for privacy). She thought she was finally free. After years of untangling herself […]
Why they’re avoidant
Let’s talk about a painful truth most people miss: The traits we blame on others— their avoidance, their coldness, their walls— are often reflections of the parts of us we’ve been unwilling to face. (This is called “shadow projection”) Here’s what I mean: If you identify as “anxious,” always chasing connection, you probably think you’re […]
When Boundaries Backfire
Let me tell you about Sarah. Sarah reached out to me after yet another relationship ended with the same words: “I can’t do this anymore.” But she wasn’t talking about the breakup. She was talking about the exhaustion. The isolation. The confusion. Sarah had built walls so high and so thick that even the people […]
What Secure Relationship Feels Like
It’s sad. Truly sad. Most people wouldn’t recognize a secure relationship if it showed up with a neon sign saying, “No Drama Here.” Why? Because when all you’ve known is trauma bonds, longing, and anxiety, push and pull, you start mistaking chaos for connection, and secure love will be too uncomfortable, and you’ll push it […]
The One Feeling That Blocks Intimacy And Vulnerability
Vulnerability and intimacy. These are the two things most of us crave in relationships, yet they feel as elusive as trying to catch smoke with your hands. Why? Because of one sneaky little feeling that hijacks our connections and blocks our ability to show up authentically: Shame. Shame is the silent saboteur of intimacy. It’s […]
The Root of Relationship Breakdowns
If you’re paying attention, relationship breakdowns will follow a specific pattern. The same conflict. The same arguments. The same heartbreak. Whether it’s your marriage, your dating life, or even the way you show up for your friends, these breakdowns carry a familiar sting: Feeling like you give too much and get nothing in return. Wondering […]
Do This If You’Re Breaking Up
Breaking up is hard. But let’s face it— healing from a breakup when you’re stuck in self-blame feels like training for a marathon when you’ve spent the last decade binge-watching Netflix. It’s brutal. It’s exhausting. And it’s mostly because you’re not just mourning the person— you’re grieving the story you’ve been telling yourself about love, […]